We all start learning what relationships are suppose to look like by observing our parents. I have always held the belief that I am a very lucky person. I observed a loving stable home where affection was shown and love was never questioned. As a matter of fact one of my Mother’s sayings was always, “Nothing you can do will ever make me not love you, I may not approve of whatever it is you did but I will still love you.” What a powerful statement, not only to say but to live. Time and time again raising two boys my parents exhibited the behavior that goes along with those words. Consequently I’ve never had to ask the question; Am I loved? I know it in every fiber of my being.
My parents came to visit last week. They stay with us when they are in town because we have the room and because it’s comfortable. I really enjoy the time they come to visit. Once again they got to show through their behavior that they loved one of their sons. My brother is learning a tough lesson this month and my parents came up to lend support and show him their love.
I’m sharing this because I watched a show on TV last night about a professor who died last week of cancer. He gave what is now referred to as “The last lecture” which is also a book now.
On September 18, 2007, computer science professor Randy Pausch stepped in front of an audience of 400 people at Carnegie Mellon University to deliver a last lecture called “Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams.” With slides of his CT scans beaming out to the audience, Randy told his audience about the cancer that is devouring his pancreas and that will claim his life in a matter of months.
I highly recommend everyone checking it out. One thing that popped out from this program is how this man believed very strongly in telling the truth. In all situations. If you watch it don’t miss the part where he shares at the end who the lecture is for.
On their recent visit my Mom shared with me that I shock her most of the time by how I say things so matter of factually. My response was “well how else would I say them.” I too believe in telling the truth. I value honesty very highly, something I got from my parents. I am so grateful that not only did they set a great example of what a loving relationship is in their own marriage but also how to show love to us boys and all their friends. I’m a better person because of my parents.
Thank you Mom and Dad.