Better relationships? Better than what? That’s up to you. The fact is, getting the relationship you want takes work, but the process doesn’t have to be overwhelming.
When I work with a couple, the relationship is my client and my focus is on helping each partner contribute to enhance and improve the relationship. I don’t take sides, though I will point out behaviors that aren’t productive to moving the relationship toward the goal you’ve both defined. While one partner may get the bulk of the criticism for a while, it balances out. If both parties want the relationship, and want it to be different than it is, both bear responsibility for its current state.
Attracting the Right Person
If you’re looking for a relationship, the first step is clarifying what you truly want in a partner and a relationship and creating a clear intention. That is much easier to say than it is to do. One common mistake is to focus on what you don’t want or what’s wrong with a current or previous relationship, in part because that’s easier to do. Let me help you identify what you want from your current or next relationship: How do you expect your partner to treat you? How do you want to treat your partner? Then you’ll be able to know when you’ve found what you’re looking for.
I love this quote from a couple I work with:
“Chuck is never afraid to constructively put one of us in our place when we need it, and his sense of humor and fair play goes a long way in helping us understand what it takes to have a successful marriage.”
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